T@ts Me

Some food for thought!

Choice or Chance

When we meet the right person to love, when we’re at the right place at the right time, that’s chance.

When you meet someone you’re attracted to, that’s not a choice. That’s chance.

Being caught up in a moment (and there are a lot of couples who get together because of this) is not a choice. That’s also a chance.

The difference is what happens afterwards.

When will you take that infatuation, that crush, that mind- blowing attraction to the next level? That’s when all sanity goes back, you relationship or just a fling.

If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that’s not a chance.  That’s choice.

When you choose to be with a person, no matter what, that’s choice.

Even if you know there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you decide to love your mate just the same, that’s choice.

Infatuation, crushes, and attraction come to us by chance. But true love that lasts is truly a choice. A choice that we make.

Regarding soulmates, there’s a beautiful movie quote that I believe is so true about this: "Fate brings you together, but it’s still up to you to make it happen."

I believe that soulmates do exist, that there is truly someone made for you.  But it’s still up to you to make the choice if you’re going to do something about it or not.

We may meet our soulmates by chance, but loving and staying with our soulmate is still a choice we have to make.

We came to the world not by finding someone perfect to love, BUT to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly.

many many things happen these few months…. happy things, sad things… but i think i experience the later part.

sad stuffs… really can make one feel really down in mood that you will just sit there and stare in the blank and start to think think think. guess maybe i am too sensitive about things around me.

no cure for that i guess, is there? anyone can help?????

i guess i should do something…i think me getting too stress up for the upcomings plans i have. i might get some pre………. blues??????

too stress liao…. must do something to it…

sori i don’t know what i am writing about and wasting your time to read! 

once in a while, u will start to feel tat your brain is DEAD tat you can’t think of anything or make any decision.

Why??? Recently seem like there’s quite a number of decision i hv to make in the near future…… there are so many that you are stuck in the middle, think until tat you might lost track!!! Then your brain cannot ‘turn’ anymore!

DEAD… u hv to pull yourself back slowly then you will start to think again, ALL OVER AGAIN. then you start to scratch your head, thinking, thinking, thinking….

After a while, when your brain start to be ‘DEAD’ again, GIVE UP, you will say will decide later… over n over with such a routine, your brain can be ‘DEAD’ so many times tat till now, no decision is being made!

Sigh…… life with so many decision can be tiring… enough so far, my brain ‘DEAD’ again.

I guess everyone of u guys out therem wake up in the morning during weekdays, telling yourself ‘how I wish I don’t need to go to work, its so boring!’

every sunday evening, your mood will start to go down thinking, "oh shit, tomorrow got to work again". Thinking back on the pile of work you got to do and finish up within the time frame given. You start to think how good it will be if it is saturday the next day that you don’t need to go to work.

That is me! Getting bored when I think that I need to go to work every sunday and especially every morning from monday to friday. Its the rountine of work that you need to do, each and everyday. unless you have sth new to learn from your work place, then i will find it interesting to look forward to.

Ever thought of looking for a new job, change a new environment but everytime I think of my future plan. I have to tell myself have to struggle on for a few years first before I move on from my current place.

Bored! Sian! Tired! Is the words that I would use when I think of work. Hmmm… so when can I be like my other friends to move out from this boring place?????

I am being asked a question, that everyone can give yourself a thought of it!

No matter what your current situation are,

if you are seeing someone now and decided to get married or you are already married, ask yourself this question:- in your next life will you want to be married with him/her again or if you previousy have a few relationship, who would you wish to be together again?

This will sure to give everyone some time to thik about it. Of course you are sure about yourself that you really love the person next to you now, then your answer would be simple and fast, cos it will be him/her.

Back to myself, I’m being ask ths question, given some thoughts, guess would still be my current ‘him’. What make this decision? A simple and strong answer, I feel the secrity and happiness when I am with him.

I did ask my current ‘him’ this question, but I told him I wouldn’t want his answer. Cause he have a few relationship before me and I am not clear about all the ladies before me. No matter how good or bad they are, I believe they sur did have a place on my current ‘him’ before.

I believe if my current him would reply me that ‘ if any one of the ladies he would choose for his future life and not being me, I’m sure I will feel upset and jealous’

or

‘If he sya he will choose me again, definitely I will be happy but hopefully that the truth from him and not just wanting to make me happy and he say that’.

So that why I told him I won’t demand him for any answer. All I need to do is to take the answer as it will be me to be chosen for his next life again. Hehe…. am i just too thick skinned???

Its difficult to decide who you really want to be in your next life or even your current life for some people but as long you are happy will do!

So who will that be for you?

At last 4 days of the training over on the problem solving & decision making.

This couse teaches us on PSDM, now all my head is on the course. The lecturer would start asking what is the deviation, what is the object? blar, blar, blar…..etc.

There is a always a process you need to make in your day to day life, sometimes you have to make an analysis what you want to buy, making decision which to buy, thinking of future problems or opportunity that you will be meeting when you buy certain things or even make certain decision. You won’t know that you are using the steps that KT teaches us but definitely you are using the steps.

KT teaches us on the more precise steps that we might need in our work……. but asking myself do we really have the time to us all the steps in our work when we are always running out of time in work.

sigh… life is really contridicting i guess… what is your next decision are you making which you cannot decide, maybe I can help you in it. Me an expert now, after I attended the course….. hehe… =P

Of cos none other is my 25th birthday.

After so many years of birthday, today is one of the happiest birthday I had! I have lots of my colleagues celebrating with me. Not forgetting my dear had given me a very pretty surprise!

Firstly in the morning, my ‘brother’ from my company shared with 2 other ex-colleague bought a very beautiful diamond necklace for me. This is the very 1st surprise today. I am really very touched by their actions.

Not forgetting, Jeffrey treated me for a birthday lunch! This is the second year that he do that for me. Really appreciated that.

Second surprise came after I came back from my lunch! I receive a bouquet of sunflowers. I thought that my dear gave it to me but its not. Then I started suspecting who is the secret admirer????? =D

There came the third surprise, another bouquet of flowers came in. That is the most beautiful colour that I have seen in roses! My favourite colour "Turqoise". A total of 18 roses with long long leaves surrounded it. They say it means by "Chang Chang Jiu Jiu". These roses definitely is by my Dear Wilson. I am really touched by that till I don’t know what to say.

Don’t forget the 2nd bouquet of flowers is from my colleagues. It is so sweet of them.

The last surprise, the store bought a cake for me. They even sang birthday song for me! I receive lots of best wishes from them, and in return i give the ladies each a kiss. Haha…

Thinking that this will be the end of my birthday’s surprises but another big one came after I finished my dinner at home. As I am checking my email, he appear in front of me! That is my dear. I thought that he had bought me a bouquet of flowers and that’s it. Never expected that he didn’t work for his overtime to give me a surprise and even bought another cake for me! I am so shocked and really touched that I cried! This is the first time that I feel so touched and cried! I guess I won’t forget this moment.

Really thanks everyone around me to give me such a nice 25th Birthday!!!

Luv u all so much!

sth u can get angry with urself if u need $$$ but u don’t hv it. then u will wish tat ur pay can be at a certain range that u expected. but it is difficult now in this ‘employer’s market’. 1 job 10 or more people grabbing for it.

open out the papers nowadays, u need at least a degree before you can get a job. if not u go for those low qualified jobs, then ur pay will be low. pay low, not enough $$$$ to use.

wat u use, need, wants, needs $$$.

pay ur handphone bill, daily expenses like food, transportation, entertainment, eg movies, going out with ur bf/gf/frens, buy clothes, do facial, give some pocket $$$ for your parents, going holidays  etc etc…. u need $$$

now govt also get money from you. 5% GST,  yearly income tax, decreasing in the % of CPF…. etc…..

sometimes u tell urself not to be bothered by $$$ but u still cannot escape from it. u hv to face with it, tat is y savings is very impt.

future is in front of u, definitely, for sure u need $$$ for your future plans, studies, wedding, future homes, kids, medical fees for old age etc.

$$$… where can we get them???? buy TOTO, 4D, dreaming someday u get rich from it. HAHAHAHA

Jus attended my colleague Barbara’s wedding…. 27th June 2005!

Really look very pretty in person and not forgetting the wedding photos.

Always have the urge to get married when I attend any wedding. I don’t know why I have such feeling but I know no harm in thinking abt that I guess.

This year is a busy year, always attending wedding dinner, fren’s ROM solenmization. There will be another one on July and another dinner at Dec. Colleague too getting ROM this year….. hmmm…. happy for them. =)

Always dreaming of getting married and taking beautiful photos but all this have to spend lots of $$$ so I guess it is not as easy as what I think.

So keep dreaming till someone propose before all my ‘dreams’ come true…. hehehe….

19th June 2005, big day for Martin & Nicole. Its their ROM ceremony.

Really happy for both of them, never expected to be both of them but still CONGRATULATIONS to them.

Nice place and good idea for their solemization…. Dear and Me also think that we can do something like that so that friends can mingle around after the ’short’ ceremony.

When is my turn???? Still waiting………..